Unbelievable
Aug. 18th, 2002 10:21 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
gridloreI am currently engaged in one of the strangest discussions I have ever seen on the ConJose mailing list, A newbie ask for advise on how to enjoy his first World Con, and the comments flowed into convention etiquette. I mentioned that some people (like me) dislike being hugged without warning, so please ask first.
So far, I've been told that I need to see a shrink, been accused in private mail of being psychopathic, and told that if this person sees me they will hug me, consequences be damned.
Why is it so bloody hard for people to realize and accept that I just do not like being touched? Why do I have to wear a button that says Ask Before Hugging? What does it say about fandom that there is a market for these buttons?
To be clear: I understand and accept inadvertent contact like you get in crowded elevators and queues. Being tapped on the shoulder in a noisy place, is okay. But unless I have invited any other form of contact, please do not assume that I want to hug you! I have very good reasons for this.
Christ, I may get a spiked jacket at this rate.
So far, I've been told that I need to see a shrink, been accused in private mail of being psychopathic, and told that if this person sees me they will hug me, consequences be damned.
Why is it so bloody hard for people to realize and accept that I just do not like being touched? Why do I have to wear a button that says Ask Before Hugging? What does it say about fandom that there is a market for these buttons?
To be clear: I understand and accept inadvertent contact like you get in crowded elevators and queues. Being tapped on the shoulder in a noisy place, is okay. But unless I have invited any other form of contact, please do not assume that I want to hug you! I have very good reasons for this.
Christ, I may get a spiked jacket at this rate.
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Date: 18 Aug 2002 10:30 (UTC)They did know that you'd been given a nice education on how to kill people, right? And that coming up to someone and touching them ,after being told not to constitutes assault?
Sounds like a future nominee for a darwin award. Who is this yib-yob, so I can avoid them?
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Date: 20 Aug 2002 03:45 (UTC)Why else do you think someone said "I fear for the people around you, then"? Ferchrissake, Aahz posted to the thread and said "Folks, he has a boundary - respect it." And you KNOW what a promiscuous hugger he is....
One of the list admins finally stepped in and said "Okay, this has been beaten into the sand. Take it to email, or drop it altogether." I hope people have chosen the latter.