Deal with it.

[gridlore]

Last night, Rose and I talked about a few things, especially my reactions of polyamory and how people might act at the callahan's annex. Today, I get an e-mail from my sister ranting at about the fact that I *dared* to talk about my personal life with my family!

Attention world! I am the following: a financial/military conservative, socially liberal, somewhat bi, cross-dressing veteran. I consider my marriage to Kirsten to be the single most important relationship in my life. I do not bed hop, and do not think that it is overly healthy, in either an emotional or physical sense. I prefer to actually care about and be interested in my partners.

I do not like being touched. I am constantly amazed by the number of people who seem to think that it is perfectly ok to just grab me two seconds after I meet them. I have known people who couldn't get this clue for years. Free Clue: If you meet me, expect a handshake at most.

I despise groups like PeTA and the Family Research Council equally. I find the world's religions good sources of ethical guidance, but the mythology attached ranges from the silly to the disturbing.

I am a patriot. I once swore to defend this nation and what it stands for with my life if necessary. I may be out of uniform, but as far as I am concerned, that oath stands.

I do not tolerate fools or whining. Take you dramas elsewhere. If you come to me whinging about some problem, I will attempt to find a solution to that problem. This, for some reason, shocks people. If you just want to complain about your life and not do anything about, talk to the mirror. Because I don't give a damn.

I believe that the majority of people living on San Francisco's streets are bums. Make them work for their *food*, not shelter, and you'd be amazed how fast they'd thin out.

I am a sports fan. I love sports. Baseball and football especially, but I'll watch just about anything. I also like mindless action movies. I don't get art films. They bore me. Speaking of art, I think modern art is the biggest fraud on the last 200 years. A painting or sculpture should look like something, even if it is an interpretation of the subject. Koko the Gorilla is a better painter than Jackson Pollack.

The Kinks are ten times the band the Beatles ever were. There has never been a Bob Dylan song that wasn't done better by someone else.

These are some of the things that make me me. I am not the typical SF Bay Area thirty-something geek. Don't expect me to be. If you don't like the person I am, go the fuck away and find something you like more. I am so damn happy to be alive and the way I am that I am not changing for any one. I've done enough of that.

It matters not how straight the gate
How charged with punishments the scroll
I am the master of my fate
The captain of my soul
- Invictus

Comments

[fimbrethil.livejournal.com]

Me again, weighing in on the poly thing. IMO, it's hard when there is a triad and not a quad. Liam, Harry and I went through similar stuff for a loooooong time. Harry and I couldn't show affection to one another when Liam was around. This didn't change until Rose came along and Liam felt there was equality. It still didn't really change his attitudes but he had somebody else to flaunt so it bothered him less. I know this doesn't help your situation at all, just saying that I understand your position. I myself, sometimes felt uncomfortable if Harry, Rose and I were together and they got too cuddly. It made me feel like that fifth wheel. As to family gatherings, the only family member that knows is my Dad. I still have to pretend we are not a couple with my Mom. She wouldn't understand, would ask too many stupid questions(intelligent questions I would answer but you don't know my mother!)and would broadcast my life over her gossip hotline. The rest of the family is either too narrow-minded or too born again to even listen. Sorry for the rough times. I have an ear if you want to vent. The same applies for e-mail.

[kshandra]

(Apologies from gridlore for not conveying this personally; we've been relegated to our old Win3.1 box - hopefully dafydd can figure out what's wrong with the good machine tonight - and I have far more patience with it than he does.)

IMO, it's hard when there is a triad and not a quad. Liam, Harry and I went through similar stuff for a loooooong time. Harry and I couldn't show affection to one another when Liam was around. This didn't change until Rose came along and Liam felt there was equality.

We discussed this last night, as well. He's supposed to be spending some solo time with eleri this weekend; it may well be that he'll be more comfortable with someone of his own to cuddle up to. Only time will tell, of course.

I still have to pretend we are not a couple with my Mom. She...would broadcast my life over her gossip hotline.

Heh. Sounds like why dafydd avoids discussing relationships with his mother, mono or poly....