gridlore: Doug looking off camera with a grin (Penguin - Carpe)
Douglas Berry ([personal profile] gridlore) wrote2005-09-28 04:43 pm
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Right on!

Fellow GURPSian (and all-around smart and interesting fellow) [livejournal.com profile] jackwalker wrote a wonderful piece on gay rights and acceptance in his journal, and with permission I'm posting a link to it here.

On homosexuality
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[personal profile] kengr 2005-09-29 02:22 am (UTC)(link)
The disclaimer (if believed) can actually help.

I'm not only part of the GLBT community, I've also had a certain "kink" since a *very* early age (early enough that I can't see any way for it to be anything but "nature" rather than "nurture")

But every reference to it in popular culture was that it was sick (at best!).

So growing up with that, I'd been indoctrinated to think I was a bad person. And all the folks who also share that kink or had similar kinks saying that there was nothing wrong with it didn't really change that feeling *because* they were like me.

I finally "came out" to someone I was in love with. And then discovered that I'd misread an email as being a reply to one of mine where I'd hinted at things. It hadn't been.

They told me they needed to think about it. And I was certain that I'd ruined everything. A couple days later we talked. And they told me that they didn'tr understand it and they weren't interested in it but that they saw nothing wrong with my being "into" it.

Being told by someone with no interest that they saw nothing wrong with it was what broke the old conditioning.

So your disclaimers may help some folks.