The State judge. Mainly because She is a member of the United States Army, and cannot be ordered to do anything by a state judiciary bench.

Is she a hardship case? Probably. Should she have left the CONG when she had 5+2 kids? Absolutely. Are her actions going to end badly all around? Damn straight.

Her husband is equally at fault here. One of them should have seen this possibility coming, and left the Guard.