She should have realized that with her husband in a combat unit, and long about the time she had her third kid, that any deployment was going to cause serious hardship and separated voluntarily.

Her commanders have a job to do, and she is supposed to be there doing her part of it. It's not that hard to leave the National Guard, especially if you have a family commitment like this.

What she seems to be ignoring is that her unit is at war. And the NG is short handed as it is. There is a stop-loss in place all over the Army now. She and her husband should have realized that both of them getting deployed would be disastrous.